At 27, I am single and working in a laboratory clinic here in Bacolod City. I have a boyfriend of 5 years. He comes from a well-to-do family and is currently running their family business.
Both my parents are government employees and about to retire in 5 years. Because of their desire for me to have a brighter future, they have persistently encouraged me to work abroad. They always keep on reminding me to start considering of applying for a job outside of the Philippines.
I am not so sure if I am emotionally ready for this kind of change in my life especially that my boyfriend who I already consider to be my future husband, doesn't support this idea of my parents. My boyfriend keeps on telling me that he will be the one to support me and our family if we decide to get married. No need for me to work abroad. He even reiterated to me that I just need to take care of our family.
I am now torn between two significant people in my life: to obey my parents or submit to my future husband. This has really put so much pressure on me lately, thatis sometimes causes arguments with my parents and my boyfriend. I really want to please both my parents and my boyfriend but I do not know how to handle this.
Dear Troubled daughter,
This is indeed a good and bad situation. Good that you have a very responsible boyfriend who keeps telling you that he will take care of you once you guys settle down. Bad because your parents want you to work abroad for a brighter future.
Things are still not so clear to me when it comes to your parents' advice regarding your future. Do they already know about your plans of settling down soon? Or your boyfriend's plan about how he will be raising your family? This has to be clarified to them.
Probably they are still in the mode of thinking that you are single and still have so many plans for your future.
You guys need to discuss this matter together, do not presume that everything will be okay. I suggest that your boyfriend needs to assure them that he will take care of you once you guys get married.
Praying for you.