I am 58 years old and a retired construction engineer. My wife and I have been successful in raising our three daughters. My wife has always been focused on taking care of our children, while I make sure that our needs are always being met.
Our eldest daughter is now a nurse in the Middle East for the last two years, while our two other daughters work in Manila. Last year, our eldest daughter sent us an email that she met a guy, who is not a Filipino, in the hospital where she is connected. This relationship blossoms and the guy is so madly in love with our daughter that he wants to marry her right away. I told my daughter that they don’t have to be in a hurry to get married. They should continue to get to know each other and possibly have the guy visit us here in the Philippines so that we will get to know him before any plans of settling down or getting married.
What shocked us was that a couple of days later, we received an email from the guy. After reading the email, I was very disappointed and hurt because he kind of lectured us about how we should treat our daughter. I was so mad that I called my daughter and told her to end the relationship. Her mother and I don’t like the attitude of the guy. He was trying to give us a sermon on how to handle the situation.
My daughter was crying over the phone during our conversation until she told us a very shocking news. She’s already pregnant.
When I heard about it, I felt like a cold water was poured over my body. I was silent and could not say anything and ended up the conversation.
Dear Shocked Father,
Remember, she is the one who is having this baby. It is a decision she has made and must also know that there are consequences to her actions.
I understand too your feelings especially about the boyfriend who sent you a very strong email. Probably, there might be some misunderstandings that need to be clarified.
I am sure your daughter is in a lot of stress right now. It is not good for her while she is having the baby. What she really needs is your understanding and support. For sure she’s feeling the weight of her decision right now.
If they cannot come home to meet you guys, why not consider traveling to visit them. It will for sure break the barrier of communication and consequently, your daughter will be very happy.
Praying for you.
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