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Bacolod City, Philippines Wednesday, October 9, 2019
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Feeling betrayed

Dear Tito,

I am 31 years old, single and was working as a chef at a big hotel in the city. I have been enjoying my job for the last three years until I met my boyfriend, who is also a chef in the same hotel.

Actually, he is separated from his wife with whom he has two children. Our relationship has been going on for a year, and lately, we have become very intimate. Two months ago, I found out that I am pregnant with his child. I have no choice but to inform my supervisor. Sad to say, the management decided to terminate my contract because of my situation.

When my boyfriend knew about it, out of compassion coupled with disappointment from the management, he also decided to resign from the job. He told me that he has accepted the offer for him to work on a cruise ship as a chef for him to support me and our coming baby.

I was very happy with his idea and plans.

It has been months now that he has been working on a cruise ship but I realized that more than 50 percent of his income is being sent to his former wife and their kids.

I started to question him about it and he told me that it is stipulated in his contract that his legal family would receive more than 50 percent of his monthly salary. I decided to accept that agreement but it seems that the support I am receiving is not enough for my expenses.

In fact, I have noticed also that lately he has not been communicating with me. One of his companions in the cruise ship went home recently and I had the chance to talk to him. I was surprised to hear from him that he has seen my boyfriend a number of times talking to his wife and children.

I am hurt by his actions and I don’t know how to react right now. I feel like he has betrayed me.

Betrayed Girlfriend

Dear Betrayed Girlfriend,

Your situation is very complicated. Your boyfriend has a legal family, which he is committed to support. Actually, I don’t have a problem with that. It is his moral obligation to support them regardless his relationship with them.

You are his current girlfriend and it so happens he also has a child with you, which allows him to support you and your child.

This is a case of obligation and he is just trying to provide for his immediate family. Regarding your ill feelings toward him, try to discuss your situation with him.

Praying for you.


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