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with Ptr. Gary V. Visitacion

Marry again?

Dear Tito,

I am 46 years old, widower and has one daughter who is now 24 years old. My wife died right after she gave birth to our daughter due to complications when she was delivering her baby.

It was indeed a shocking moment in my life. I had a hard time trying to understand what happened. It took me a number of years to accept that I don’t have my wife anymore on my side. My family was there to help me take care of my daughter.

I personally devoted my life and time in taking care of my daughter. My world started to revolve around my work and my her, which means I never had the opportunity to consider marrying again. A number of women was introduced to me by some friends but I was not interested in courting them.

My daughter has been telling me that it is okay with her already if I ever get married again. She would understand if I will find a new wife and move on with my life. Her statement really did not excite me and I tried to forget about it.

Just recently my daughter told me that it would be good for me to remarry because she sometimes notices that I am lonely and alone most of the time at the house.

I am humbled by my daughter’s concern but it seems that I don’t have any plans to replace her mother.

Devoted Husband

Dear Devoted Husband,

I understand where your daughter is coming from. She is very concerned about your situation and future. She just wants you to be happy and not lonely.

I also would like to support you with regards to your decision of not marrying again. You probably have your personal reasons and I respect that.

Maybe what you need to do is to talk to your daughter and explain to her the real reasons why you want to remain single for the rest of your life.

Praying for you.


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